Let's Get Intimate

Here's a topic that doesn't get talked about too often and that is your sexuality when you reach midlife. Sexuality is just one part of an intimate relationship and as you age, there is no reason to believe you have to give it up. Things may be different than when you were younger, but that doesn't mean it has to be bad. Let's dispel some of the myths associated with sexuality as you age.

False. There's no risk of pregnancy and if you are in a secure monogamous relationship, you may not need to use a condom. However, if you are single, dating and sexually active, absolutely use protection. 23% of recent HIV diagnosis has been in men and women 45 years +.

In addition, herpes, HPV, Chlamydia and other STD's are on the rise in this age group.

Myth #2: Your body is no longer attractive

False. Even with wrinkles, gray hair and sagging body parts, your beauty is still on the inside. Flaunt your fabulous personality and don't worry about the rest. The energy you exude is more attractive than any physical attributes. Shine from the inside out and you will be as attractive as ever.

Myth #3: What you used to like sexually, you should still like

False. People's tastes and fantasies change over the years and what you used to feel comfortable doing, may not be as seductive as it used to be. Now is the time to experiment again as you did when you were younger.

Think of sex as an ongoing adventure and exciting exploration.

Myth #4: A woman's sex drive diminishes after menopause

False. Sex can be better for women since the fear of pregnancy is gone.

Desire has a lot to do, however, with confidence, her partner, self-awareness, where she's at in her life, and what medications she's on. There is no reason to think that a woman can't continue to enjoy a satisfying, fulfilling sex life. What you need to understand is that life is your special journey. Do what makes you feel most comfortable and don't be afraid to discover ways to rejuvenate and revitalize your life inside and outside the bedroom.

About the author: Amy Sherman, LMHC is the author of : Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer's Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 and Yes, 60!

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